Childless aunt refuses to watch infant niece to help out the family, brother-in-law drops daughter off with aunt's work anyway: 'I don't want to be the primary care for her after school'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 30, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

When a family member has a baby, everyone is overjoyed with the new life that's brought to the world. Children have a way of making everyone in a better mood. But of course, children are also a handful to take care of, and require so much of your time, money, and patience as a parent. It's insane to think that most people are expected to work full-time after having children. Usually, a two income household isn't even enough to pay for everything, much less one. And even if one parent is stay-at-home, it's probably not fun for the other parent to miss out on crucial moments together with their child as they form into a little human and grow up. 

In this story, we have an aunt who refuses to be babysitter to her 5-year-old. She loves her niece, and the first time her BIL randomly dropped her off at her work, she was okay babysitting her. What she didn't realize is that he would be dropping her off at her work everyday for the rest of the summer. Read the full story below. 

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    AITAH for telling my sister that I won’t be after school care for her 5 yr old daughter?

    Aunt babysitting her niece
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    I (F40) work for my father's company as an accountant. My sister (F38) works for the city we live in, and my BIL (M35) also
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  • It's incredibly entitled for this brother-in-law to just drop his kid off with her aunt at her work. Just because it's a family company doesn't mean it's okay to take advantage of people. She is right to put her foot down, because the whole summer is a long time.

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    works for my dad, but in a different capacity and position in the field. For context, my dad is a
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    licensed electrician and he's built and maintained a successful business for over 30 years.
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    School started in our county two weeks ago. Last week, my brother-in-law shows up at my office and drops off my niece. He
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    asked if I could watch her for the afternoon, and I said of course. Then he proceeded to drop her off every day after that at the
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    same time. On Friday, I was asked if it was OK if I watched her for the rest of the school year.
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    I am childless by choice. I don't particularly want to watch my niece every single week day. I don't like that it was assumed I
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    would do so. I don't mind helping, but I am at work during this time and I don't like that I am juggling two things at once. My
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    Woman stressed out at work
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    dad is ok with me keeping her and is pretty much staying out of this arrangement.
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    After school care is offered in our district for $25 per week.
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    Electrician at work
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    When I said "no, I don't want to be the primary care for her after school," my BIL reacted strongly
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    and told my dad that he'd need afternoons off bc I said I would not watch her.
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    Part of me feels like I just need to it up and watch her bc "you do for family." The other part of me wants to stick to my and keep saying no.
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    So AITAH for trying to draw this line in the sand with my sister and BIL?
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    OkBalance2879 • 6h ago IF True??? You don't want to be an "unpaid and clearly unappreciated nanny" So don't be one.
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    K_A... 6h ago • Edited 5h ago NTA. She isn't your kid. They can just pay $25 a WEEK. That is nothing. Heck your
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    dad would probably give him a $25/week raise if $25 is a significant amount where you live.
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    Eve-3 6h ago What were they doing with the child three weeks ago? You'd think she would need
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    more childcare outside of the school year than once it starts again.
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    Antique-Agent-2992 • 6h ago Nope. Their monkey, their problem. You are not a parent because you don't
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    want to be a parent. BIL is being an AH, $25 is de d cheap for child care.
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    RevolutionaryDiet6... • 6h ago NTA They can pay for daycare or they can find someone else.
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